ADHD isn't something that we're going to "fix" with a pill. There's nothing broken! Jonas' brain is wired differently than the other 75% of the population and that means that we have to change the way we think and the way we do things. There are lots of ADHD success stories to be encouraged by, but they aren't about people taking a pill every day and magically turning into a completely different person. Heck! We don't want a different kid. The one we have is amazing!
|One amazing kid!|
The two biggest impacts of Jonas' ADHD are in school and his relationships. Our biggest hope is that taking this medication will help him focus better at school so that, along with a bunch of other accommodations, he can be a successful learner. He struggles, too, in his social relationships. Like most kids, he has to learn those vital social skills, and sometimes it takes him a little while longer to get it. This makes dealing with his peers hard sometimes but he has a good heart, and that shines through to most of the other kids most of the time. Other kids have a lot of their own learning to do too, and that adds to the challenge.
His relationships with adults is an entirely different ball of wax. A child is rarely the driver of those relationships. There's a power indifference there that makes him very vulnerable. Saying that he'll be a different kid is too uncomfortably close to saying that he's not good enough as he is. It's sort of like a stick in the mud approach where he's expected to make all the changes. Even with the right medication, Jonas is still going to need lots of help to get through his days smoothly, and with as little stress for everyone as possible. He's only seven after all. We're counting on the key adults in his life to realize that our attitudes, and the way we interact with him, are crucial. Someone wiser than me once said that if you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem. This isn't going to change his whole life unless we change right along with it!